10 surprising signs that they're interested
When someone fancies you, they don’t always show it in the way you’d
expect. Miss the signals, and your chance has gone. Next time, look out for
these surprising signs – and don’t let ‘em get away.
1. They don’t talk to you
They’re so scared of looking
foolish in front of you that they don’t risk it. You need to take charge. Start
a conversation. Expect some nervous babble, but be encouraging and interested.
Their confidence will grow and they’ll soon start to make sense.
2. They tease you
Schoolkids tease their crushes in the
school playground, and none of us ever really outgrows the habit. Attack is the
best form of defence, in love as in war. If someone you fancy teases you, don’t
give them a slap; give them your phone number.
3. They hide from you
As with the teasing and silent
treatment, this one is a form of defence. If you can’t see them, you can’t see
them fall on their face, blush until they burn, or humiliate themselves in
random heartbreaking ways.
4. They don’t seem to remember you
So, you had a brief
drunken encounter six years ago, and it has faded from their memory. That’s what
they want you to think. They want you to think that they’re far too busy and
popular to recall it. In fact, the memory is etched onto their brain and lived
out in filthy fantasies every single night.
5. They suggest splitting the bill on your first date
If you’re
a woman, you probably assume that he’d buy you dinner if he fancied you. If
you’re a man, you assume that she’d let you pay if she fancied you. Wrong. When
someone’s interested, they’re careful not to seem over-keen, or out to buy
affection or sex, or – in the woman’s case – tight-fisted.
6. They push back their shoulders when they see you
It’s
not an obvious signal, but it’s a very common one. We respond subconsciously to
an attractive person by improving our posture: men puff out their chests
slightly, and women arch their backs.
7. They flirt with your friend
Rather than be rejected
by you, they’re seducing you by stealth. If they can impress your friend, your
friend will spread the approving word to you. Then they can find out from your
friend whether you’re interested.
8. Their friend flirts with you
They’ve sent their mate
on a mission to involve you in a group night out, where they will make their
move. Classic strategy.
9. They babble nonsense at you
The power of your
attractiveness has short-circuited their brain. Chances are they’re dimly aware
that their mouth is spouting nonsense, but it’s out of their control.
10. They ring you up to moan about a terrible date
You
think you’re in the Friend Zone, but the truth is that they want any excuse to
phone you. What’s more, by whingeing
